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Let it go, so you can grow.

Whatever it is that you are holding onto that is essentially holding you back, let it go.

Common things that people hold onto is fear, grudges, and doubt.

Fear

Fear gets the best of many of us. Fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of loss, fear of yourself, fear of being hurt.

The first rule to any fear is you can’t run away from it. You ever realize when you try to run away from something, it continuously seems to keep finding you? So your best bet is to face it like a boss, and it probably won’t even be as bad as you thought.

I used to be afraid to be in love. I used to distance myself from people because I was afraid of becoming dependant on what they brought to my life. I remember hearing stories of old couples who would be married for years and then when one partner dies the other dies shortly after. They had become so used to having that person in their life, they didn’t know what life was without them. I never wanted to be that person. I wanted to be in control of my own happiness. Then I realized that would just leave me alone without ever experiencing that kind of love.

So I let my guard down. I opened my heart to love. Then I lived happily ever after like all the fairy tales.

Ummm except, this is real life and life is not like the movies. Thank goodness,or I would have a boring ass life story. I let my guard down, I got hurt hard. I felt stupid, I felt dumb, I felt blindsided. I don’t let that hurt get in the way of me having other relationships though. A love that I experience with one person is very different than the love I will experience with someone else. So now instead of blocking my heart, I put it all out. I love with all of me, but I understand that it may not be the same all the time or I may not have that person with me all the time. So I enjoy it in the exact moment it is in.If that person and I grow apart or they are no longer in my life it takes nothing away from what we had. I feel lucky to have loved, many people don’t. Many people are too busy building up walls to really love someone or be loved.

Let that fear go man. Love is one of the greatest parts of being alive. With love automatically comes hurt though. You can’t escape it. So feel both of them fully, as much as possible.

Grudges

My biological father and I haven’t always had the best relationship as I was growing up. He was in the military and I lived at home with my mother and stepdad. There were many times growing up where I felt let down by him or that he wasn’t there for me like I wanted him to be.

As I got older there seemed to be instances that happened that only made our relationship worse and more strained. I remember there was a point where we didn’t talk at all. I realized me holding that grudge only negatively affected me. I would think about it often, when people brought up his name my aura would automatically switch to negative. I didn’t want to have that reaction whenever I thought about him anymore.

I’m not entirely sure how our relationship came back around, but I remember we had a couple of long conversations that included a lot of crying. I told him how I felt about certain things and the past. Then we talked about how we were going to start to build a better relationship. I can say now, we are extremely close. I’m so glad I didn’t hold that grudge because I would be missing out on the great relationship we have now.

So whatever someone did to you in the past, leave it there. Try to move forward. If it’s not in your best interest to move forward with that person, at least let go of what happened in the past. You are only giving them power by keeping that grudge and letting it affect you.

Doubt

You have to train your brain that whenever you doubt yourself, you automatically let it go and lift yourself up.

If you haven’t confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence, you have won even before you have started.

Marcus Garvey

Doubt will surely try to defeat you. You have to be confident. Believe in yourself. There is only one you and only you can do what do in your own way. You are meant to be where you are for a reason. You deserve to be there. These are the things your inner voice should be saying whenever you happen to doubt yourself.

I’m moving to Bali in a couple of weeks and sometimes doubt does creep into my mind about the whole situation. As soon as it does though, I remind myself that I am in alignment with my purpose and everything that is happening is meant to happen.

So let go of all that is holding you back in your life. Most times we are our worst enemy. Let go of your fears, your doubts, and your grudges.

Love freely, face your fears, and don’t let doubt take over your mind.

Which of these gets the best of you? How are you working on overcoming them?

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